LOSING AN ANIMAL THAT DIED, GRIEF VERY BAD

[mrs sharon clinton]

Hello everyone, we have a picture of our siamese cat CELINE she died on 9-06-09. highly intelligent,she loved us so much,and we loved her massive back. she is in my mind every waking minute at the moment. The vet did bloodtest and she had kidney desease,kidney failure. the vet said she suspected Celine was born with kidney problems. Our gorgeous cat enjoyed her life until she got sick about 2 weeks back. within 2 weeks of showing signs of being sick she had to be put down by us. vet said her kidneys too far gone. When my husband and i went to see her in vets room before we had to say our last goodbye, celine was so happy to see us, she suddenly looked and acted like her old self. celine purred for us and meowed and that was her way to say goodbye. I am full of grief and guilt that we had to put her down but we had no choice, a big part of my soul feels like it has gone with her at the moment. Does anyone think she could come and visit us from the other side. I imagined the first night she went that she jumped onto my side of the bed. but nothing to really feel her. our kids are upset also. So if anyone wants to talk to me about grief of losing celine or their pets,please do. it hurts so much. she was apart of our family.

[Darrell]

She might. Some of mine have done so. When you wake up in the morning to the regular sounds of morning, keep your eyes closed. Be receptive to a visit. If you get one, understand that it will be gone the very second that you open your eyes. I have even experienced my dogs when waking up on the couch in front of the tv. They were at my hand then. Just remember to keep the eyes shut.

But stop second guessing how the end came. Understand that CELINE was the next animal in line to help with your spiritual growth. Once you feel you have grieved enough, get another pet so you can go for the next level of growth. In the meantime, practice being thankful for what you had. That's my 2 cents worth.

[mrs sharon clinton]

Thanks Darrell, I will be receptive to a visit from CELINE. I will keep my eyes shut if i sense or hear her. I will get another cat once i feel up to it. I am glad for you experienced your beloved dogs.

[mrs sharon clinton]

thanks heather, i will get another cat hopefully soon. i will cherish the memories of celine forever. i am glad she is now not suffering.

[Beth N]

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. It sounds like you loved Celine very much & she loved you very much. It sounds like you gave her a good life which is something not all animals have. I know how hard it is to make the decision to euthanize a pet. All of my cats seemed to get old & sick at the same time. Since April 2007 I have had to euthanize 3 cats-the last is July 2008. I have 1 old cat left who also has health problems and I will have to make that same decision. Yours was especially tough because Celine showed signs of her previous self just before you had her put down. You may want to think of it as her leting you know that she accepted what was going to happen & she was trying to make you feel better. You did the right thing. You couldn't let her suffer anymore. In August I adopted 2 sister kittens who are now over 1 year old. This was the best thing I could have done. If you haven't done so already, consider giving another pet a home. There are so many out there that needs home & you sound like a very loving, caring person. Any pet would be lucky to have you as an owner. I hope something I said makes you feel better.

[mrs sharon clinton]

Beth,your reply about CELINE was so lovely. thankyou so much, what you have said has helped me. Today the 12th of june was my birthday and today is the 3rd day celine has left this earth. We will get another cat for sure, when i feel better. it takes time. I felt sorry for you having to euthanize your 3 cats. you had grief 3 times close together. My name is sharon by the way and I live in Australia,sydney. I hope you are having enjoyment everyday with your 2 sister cats.

[Beth N]

Sharon: I am so glad my words helped a you. I found that writing about these types of things make you feel better somehow by getting some of the sorrow you are feeling out of you & into words. Getting Dolly & Jewels helped too but I still miss my other kitties & think about them alot. Even though they are no longer with me physically, they are still with me in my heart & memories. I will never forget them. I also have lots of pictures. I am sure you feel the same way about your beloved Celine. There is a beautiful passage called "Rainbow Bridge" that you should read. I am sure if you search for it on the internet you will be able to find it. I live on Long Island, NY in the USA. I hear Australia is beautiful. I hope you have a happy birthday. I will be thinking about you and your story about Celine. I am also thinking about the new kitty you will get when you are ready & how lucky they will be to get such a wonderful home.

[mrs sharon clinton]

hello again Beth, I read the rainbow bridge now, it really helps it is so lovely that story. Yesterday on my birthday was hard, at least i turned 39 and it was not my 40th,which will be next year. Today was a tiny bit better for me, now that it happened 5 days ago. but as you know you can be okay for awhile then get upset again. Australia is beautiful the opera house and harbour bridge are great to see in person. But wow America new york, it has been my dream all my life to see America and so many times over the years i imagined how very happy i would be to see the statue of liberty in real life. Are you far from there? When i was about 6 yrs old I used to play in my backyard and believe if i moved a cement slab in our backyard, I could crawl down and walk to Disneyland. I have always wanted to see Statue of liberty and disneyland. I just could never get to America because of cost of accomodation etc.

[Beth N]

Sharon: I am so glad that little by little your are feeling better. Rainbow Bridge brings me alot of comfort. I turned 40 two years ago in January & it really didn't effect me. I felt the same. I live on Long Island in NY which is just a 45 minute train ride away from NYC. The traffic is terrible there with all the cabs so we always take the train. Last year me, my husband & daughter (she'll be 10 on the 18th) took the Long Island Railroad into NYC and then the subway to Battery Park to see the Statue of Liberty. I had to get tickets days in advance to be able to go inside. We stood on the longest line I had ever seen to get on the ferry. This is a very popular tourist attraction & most of the people on the line were from other countries. It was beautiful. This was the first time I was there. I took pictures and would be happy to e-mail them to you if you want to give me your e-mail address. We have also been to Disneyland (in California) & Disneworld (in Florida). They also are very crowded with people from all around the world. I would love to go to Australia but I don't think I could handle the flying time. We go to Las Vegas every year and the flight there is 5 1/2 hours & it seems to take forever. I do consider myself very lucky to live near NYC. We go into the city alot to see shows, go to Yankee baseball games & have dinner at our favorite italian restaraunt in Greenwich Village. I moved to Florida for a little over a year when I was a teenager. I couldn't wait to get back here & felt like I was missing something. The internet is a great thing. How else would I have been able to meet another animal lover like myself all the way from Australia?

[mrs sharon clinton]

hi Beth,we live to hours west of sydney where the opera house is. our email address is [e-mail] we would be so excited for you to email us pictures of statue of liberty, and wow i didnt realise you could also go inside it, i was happy just to see the outside. you would of loved to see it. yes it would be busy to get to see the statue of liberty because people all over the world go to see liberty. we also have a dog, called sunny. i will email you some pictures of where we live and also of our dog. so if i can have your email i will send you back pictures. i have 2 children, my daughter is 14 and my son is 11yrs old. you must of loved going to the both disneyworlds. yes i feel the same this site is wonderful and you are in a fantastic place of the world.

[mrs sharon clinton]

hi beth sorry, not to 2 hrs from sydney

[CLAIRE CLUTTERBUCK]

I feel for you and your family, you should feel very grateful that she only showed signs upto 2 weeks ago, watching an animal that you love so dearly suffering is awful, the vet did you a favour instead of trying various drugs just to prolong the agony. Keeping pictures and fond memories are the best way to get through your grief , rather than remembering the suffering Celine could have indurred. Just remember She is pain free now and probably with Ellie our family dog we lost last year who also only showed symptoms a week before the vet made the decision for us. My parents have a cross in the garden with Ellie's name on that the grandchildren talk too when they feel sad.....

[mrs sharon clinton]

Thanks Claire, my best friend when i was a child was claire,beautiful name.
yes I hope Ellie and Celine meet up and be friends. we have a dog Sunny and when he came inside, celine always liked him. celine watched him outside for hours. We have 2 pictures of celine in different frames and we have been lighting a candle for her each day.