Hunting

[Max Zander]

My sister in law has three small children and many animals. The animals are loved and considered family. And yet her husband hunts. It's only a matter of time before the father wants to bring his kids hunting with him. Doesn't it send kids a mixed message to have pets and then go kill animals?

[Joanne Pentangelo]

You would think so, wouldn't you? Boy I'm getting some tough questions here today! On a personal level, I hate hunting, and cannot for the life of me understand the motivation to kill animals. The ASPCA does not endorse hunting either. However, many hunters have pets, and their pets are loved and cared for. I dont' think that because one hunts they necessarily arent' good pet owners. I do believe however, that children become in part what we model to them, and if hunting is an acceptable sport in the home chances are your child will want to particpate in hunting as well some day.

[Max Zander]

That's exactly my fear. Is it any of my business? Should I try to stop him from taking them hunting? I would have no idea how to do this effectively. I know it's a big no-no to tell other people how to parent, so I don't know where to draw the line when it comes to protecting animals.

[Joanne Pentangelo]

Yes, it is a big no no to tell people what values to instill in their children. I think that education is the key. If you have the opportunity to educate and let your sister-in-law know how you feel and why, and give her the evidence (in a smooth, nice way) consistently of why you feel hunting is bad, maybe you can change her position. I wish I knew the answer to your question, I really do, it's hard to see someone you love doing something you're against, and involving children in it. Be the best loving uncle or aunt you can be, and offer to take them on trips where they can see and appreciate animals, without hunting t hem.